What is the first thing come to your mind
when you heard someone who sits next to you in university has a baby? Nothing
is special, right? And if that guy still has not engaged or married? Sounds
like western lifestyles, huh? Perhaps, you have seen that situation several
times in movies or films. Yep, I have. Months ago, I had chance to see it in
the real life with real people who are close to me.
On a sunny and beautiful day, not so
important and relevant, he told me “Hey man, I’m going to become a father”. At
first, I thought that he was just kidding because we usually tell jokes all the
time. “Me too, in the next many years, LOL”. “I’m serious, man. I’m going to
have a daughter”, he said. I stopped laughing after hearing that. Being a father
at the age of 22, what the fuck. I imagined that if his daughter follows her
dad, he would become a grandfather at the age of forty-something. “How can it
happen like that?” I asked. “Before she flew to the US, you know…”. “You are a
badass.” I told him. Now, you can picture the scene. My fellow was going to be
a father but his girl who was about to give birth was in the US. Moreover, they
are not married and even about to break up.
Eventually, she did give birth two months
ago. I met him at the coffee shop in our campus since I’d like to congratulate
him with a cup of cappuccino. I could see the happiness in his face which was
very different from that in the period of time before his daughter was born. He
showed me the photo of his baby. “Doctor said that giving birth at her age was
unsafe and might lead to illness or something like that for the child. But as you
see, she is as beautiful as an angel”. To be honest, I have no idea how a baby
is beautiful since I think all of them are cute. He was over the moon and I
could feel that by his facial gesture and voice. He had not been so happy like
that before. Perhaps, with a man, becoming father is the greatest moment ever
in his life.
He also told me that he would try to find a
good job and earn enough money to visit his daughter as soon as possible after
graduated from uni. Before that once-in-a-lifetime moment, I considered him as
a playboy who flirt girls by girls. I remembered his favorite sentence: “From
now, I will not flirt girls anymore, at least till tomorrow”. But now, all he
wants to do are for the sake of his daughter. He changed.
I just think that no one else is as lucky
as this guy. What if his girl did not settle in the US? That would be a real
nightmare for him and his girl. She could not go to college with a baby in
Vietnam, for sure. I do not mean about whether there is any rule or regulation
that prohibit a student like that to go to college. But I think you get my
point. Besides, their parents would not suffer from “neighborhood” and
narrow-minded people. How about the child? Apart from lack of care of father,
she has a chance to have American nationality, to master English, to receive
one of the best education in the world, many but just name a few.
I do not know what will happen in the future but
that guy and I agree that everything has its pros and cons. It happens for some
reasons but you better think of the positive things and go for them. Life will
be much easier. How terrible something could be, it still has a bright side. *********************************** Thank you for reading **************************************
