#3

What is the first thing come to your mind when you heard someone who sits next to you in university has a baby? Nothing is special, right? And if that guy still has not engaged or married? Sounds like western lifestyles, huh? Perhaps, you have seen that situation several times in movies or films. Yep, I have. Months ago, I had chance to see it in the real life with real people who are close to me.

On a sunny and beautiful day, not so important and relevant, he told me “Hey man, I’m going to become a father”. At first, I thought that he was just kidding because we usually tell jokes all the time. “Me too, in the next many years, LOL”. “I’m serious, man. I’m going to have a daughter”, he said. I stopped laughing after hearing that. Being a father at the age of 22, what the fuck. I imagined that if his daughter follows her dad, he would become a grandfather at the age of forty-something. “How can it happen like that?” I asked. “Before she flew to the US, you know…”. “You are a badass.” I told him. Now, you can picture the scene. My fellow was going to be a father but his girl who was about to give birth was in the US. Moreover, they are not married and even about to break up.

Eventually, she did give birth two months ago. I met him at the coffee shop in our campus since I’d like to congratulate him with a cup of cappuccino. I could see the happiness in his face which was very different from that in the period of time before his daughter was born. He showed me the photo of his baby. “Doctor said that giving birth at her age was unsafe and might lead to illness or something like that for the child. But as you see, she is as beautiful as an angel”. To be honest, I have no idea how a baby is beautiful since I think all of them are cute. He was over the moon and I could feel that by his facial gesture and voice. He had not been so happy like that before. Perhaps, with a man, becoming father is the greatest moment ever in his life.

He also told me that he would try to find a good job and earn enough money to visit his daughter as soon as possible after graduated from uni. Before that once-in-a-lifetime moment, I considered him as a playboy who flirt girls by girls. I remembered his favorite sentence: “From now, I will not flirt girls anymore, at least till tomorrow”. But now, all he wants to do are for the sake of his daughter. He changed.

I just think that no one else is as lucky as this guy. What if his girl did not settle in the US? That would be a real nightmare for him and his girl. She could not go to college with a baby in Vietnam, for sure. I do not mean about whether there is any rule or regulation that prohibit a student like that to go to college. But I think you get my point. Besides, their parents would not suffer from “neighborhood” and narrow-minded people. How about the child? Apart from lack of care of father, she has a chance to have American nationality, to master English, to receive one of the best education in the world, many but just name a few.

I do not know what will happen in the future but that guy and I agree that everything has its pros and cons. It happens for some reasons but you better think of the positive things and go for them. Life will be much easier. How terrible something could be, it still has a bright side.     


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